„Feminismus ist die neue Frauenfeindlichkeit: „Belle Knox Feminismus und der neue Backlash“

Belle Knox ist eine Studentin an einer amerikanischen Elite-Uni, die Pornos gedreht hat und deren Name dann herausgekommen ist, was für einen gewissen Aufruhr sorgte.

Belle Knox

Sie selbst hat dann das Drehen von Pornos in einen sexpositiven Feminismus umgedeutet:

Let’s be clear about one thing: I know exactly what I’m doing. What about you?

My entire life, I have, along with millions of other girls, been told that sex is a degrading and shameful act. When I was 5 years old and beginning to discover the wonders of my body, my mother, completely horrified, told me that if I masturbated, my vagina would fall off.

The most striking view I was indoctrinated with was that sex is something women “have,” but that they shouldn’t “give it away” too soon -– as though there’s only so much sex in any one woman, and sex is something she does for a man that necessarily requires losing something of herself, and so she should be really careful who she “gives” it to.

The prevailing societal brainwashing dictates that sexuality and sex „reduce“ women, whereas men are merely innocent actors on the receiving end. By extension, our virginity or abstinence has a bearing on who we are as people — as good people or bad people, as nice women or bad women.

Women’s ability to be moral actors is wholly dependent on their sexuality. It is, honestly, insane.

The virgin-whore dichotomy is an insidious standard that we have unfairly placed upon women. Women are supposed to be outwardly pure and modest, while at the same time being sexually alluring and available. If a woman does not have sex after a date, she will be labeled as a prude. If she does have sex, she will be referred to later as a ho or a slut.

Society thus sets up a norm in which women simply cannot win.

We must question in this equation why sex workers are so brutally stigmatized. Why do we exclude them for jobs, education, and from mainstream society?

Why do we scorn, threaten and harass them?

Why do we deny them of their personhood?

Why does the thought of a woman having sexual experiences scare us so much?

The answer is simple.

Patriarchy fears female sexuality.

It terrifies us to even fathom that a woman could take ownership of her body. We deem to keep women in a place where they are subjected to male sexuality. We seek to rob them of their choice and of their autonomy. We want to oppress them and keep them dependent on the patriarchy. A woman who transgresses the norm and takes ownership of her body — because that’s exactly what porn is, no matter how rough the sex is — ostensibly poses a threat to the deeply ingrained gender norms that polarize our society.

I am well aware: The threat I pose to the patriarchy is enormous. That a woman could be intelligent, educated and CHOOSE to be a sex worker is almost unfathomable.

I find it interesting that porn (a billion-dollar industry) is consumed by millions of people — men and women (and all other equally wonderful genders) alike — yet no one is willing to consider the lives of the people behind the camera. No one wants to hear about the abuses and exploitation that take place, no one wants to hear about the violence committed every day against sex workers, no one wants to consider that we have hopes and dreams and ambitions.

No, all we are is „whores and bimbos.“

I reject this. Instead, what I ask for is simple. I, like all other sex workers, want to be treated with dignity and respect. I want equal representation under the law and within societal institutions. I want people to acknowledge our humanity. I want people to listen to our unique narratives and dialogues.

To the anti-pornography feminists out there: I very much respect your opinion. Nevertheless, I want you to consider how you marginalize a group of women by condemning their actions. Consider that when you demean women for participating in sex work, you are demeaning THEM, and consequently, YOU become the problem.

Also eine recht klare sexpositive Einordnung: 

• Frauen werden in ihrer Sexualität unterdrückt, weil „Das Patriarchat“ Angst vor der Sexualität hat
• Denn wenn „Das Patriarchat“ nicht mehr bestimmt, was eine Frauen wollen darf, dann sind Frauen ja nicht mehr der männlichen Sexualität unterworfen
• Und wenn sie der männlichen Sexualität nicht mehr unterworfen sind, dann KANN NICHTS MEHR DIE FRAUEN STOPPEN!!!1
• Also ist es eine Befreiung der Frau, selbstbestimmt Pornos zu drehen, wenn sie das will, wenn sie damit einen offenen Umgang mit Sexualität signalisiert
• Dabei ist es egal, ob sie dabei Szenen dreht, in denen der Mann sie wie Dreck behandelt oder dominant behandelt, solange es das ist, was sie will

Mir leuchtet zwar noch nicht ganz ein, was genau das Patriarchat von einer Unterwerfung der weiblichen Sexualität hat, wenn es ansonsten eine Frau haben könnte, die noch viel perversere Sachen mit sich machen lässt. Zudem scheint mir „Das Patriarchat“ auch ansonsten eher eifrig daran zu arbeiten, Frauen ihre Sexualität darstellen zu lassen, von Miley Cyrus bis hin zu sonstigen Videos und allgemeiner Kleidung scheinen Frauen wenig Probleme damit zu haben, sich sehr sexuell zu geben. Es wird wohl eher eine Übersexualisierung beklagt als eine Untersexualisierung. Aber ich bin ja auch noch nicht in alle Teile der patriarchalischen Verschwörung eingeweiht.

Es scheint mir wahrscheinlich deswegen das biologische Erklärungsmodell, nachdem Männer ein Heiligen-Hure-Modell anziehend finden, weil es eine Mischung aus Kurz- und Langzeitpaarungsstrategie bildet (Kurzzeitig ist ungebundener Sex gut, der insbesondere auf Lustbefriedigung ausgerichtet ist, langfristig eine Bindung und eine Erhöhung der Vatersicherheit). Aber da kommt ebnen der Unterdrückungscharakter und das Befreiungsmoment zu kurz.

Natürlich gibt es eine sexnegative feministische Gegenantwort, die es genau andersherum sieht:

It’s the Belle Knox brand of feminism. It says that if an individual woman consents to — or even enjoys — performing in pornography, it must be ok. It says that if an individual woman likes pornography, it must be ok. And not just ok, but potentially empowering. I have no idea why we would assume that only men’s sexualities can be shaped by porn or why, simply because a woman’s fantasies have been shaped by porn that means those fantasies and that pornography is necessarily feminist. I don’t give a shit how many people like porn. I don’t give a shit if you say you like performing in porn (most women don’t, for the record, but there are exceptions to every rule that you’re sure to find if you look). That changes absolutely nothing about what porn is and how it impacts our lives and society as a whole.

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I think it’s a form of woman-hating. I think it’s internalized misogyny — to attack and slander and attempt to silence feminists, to paint them as bigots for taking a stand against male power and violence. You may well disagree with our ideology or our goals or our arguments, but simply disagreeing with someone does not mean they are perpetrating violence against you. Using “safe space” as an excuse to silence and no-platform feminists doesn’t fly either.

The way in which it has become acceptable in some feminist circles to blackball and tar women who fight pornography and prostitution or to ignore and discredit them by calling them “sex-negative pearl-clutchers” — to claim feminists are the ones doing the oppressing because they criticize selfies or burlesque or, really, anything else one might feel attached to — that’s all part of the backlash. Which isn’t the same as saying women are to blame, but it is saying we’ve been had.

Capitalist patriarchy has sold us all these ideas — that cosmetic surgery will make you feel good, that stripping and gyrating for an audience is empowering, that sexing up your own exploitation is the path to liberation, that stilettos are feminist if women choose to wear them, and that face-fucking is feminist so long as we’ve signed a waver. It’s also told us that feminists are the enemy — that they are prudish and repressive and no-fun. It’s told us that women are all jealous, catty, bitches and that any criticism of another woman must be envy. We learn to hate one another, you know…

Wie man es anscheinend dreht – das Patriarchat zieht nimmermüde seine Strippen: Entweder es sperrt die weibliche Sexualität ein oder es will die Frauen teuflicherweise davon überzeugen, dass sich noch mehr nach den sexuellen Wünschen der Männer zu verhalten, feministische ist.

Das wäre immerhin eine Strategie des Patriarchats, hinter die ich mich eher stellen könnte als die Beschränkung der weiblichen Sexualität. Tatsächlich würde ich aber auch hier eher darauf abstellen, dass einige Frauen eben tatsächlich auf diese Weise ihre Sexualität gut ausleben können, und Belle Knox vielleicht dazu gehört, vielleicht auch nicht. Immerhin scheinen Pornos eher die Anzahl an Sexualverbrechen abzusenken.

Es ist aber erstaunlich, wie fremdbestimmt die Frauen in beiden Ausrichtungen mal wieder sind – gleich Marionetten hängen sie an den sorgsam gezogenen Fäden des Patriarchats. Egal was sie machen, ob sie einen Porno drehen oder ihn nicht drehen, ob sie Sex haben oder nicht haben.

Das Patriarchat ist überall.