(saira rao ist eine radikale Feministin, die auch Satire sein könnte, so überzeichnet wie sie ist, sie meint es aber ernst)
Ein Artikel führt an, dass in einer Umfrage eine Vielzahl von Klischees über den Unterschied im sexuellen Bereich zwischen den Geschlechtern bestätigt worden sind, was natürlich sexistisch ist, weil Männer und Frauen gleich sind.
Was gefunden worden ist in der groben Zusammenfassung:
- Many people think that men need and want sex more than women
Was (im Schnitt) stimmt
- People also think straight men tend to initiate sex and orgasm more than women
Erscheint mir immer über den Schnitt betrachtet auch nicht wirklich problematisch
- People think straight women experience “orgasm gap”, commonly refuse sex, and “go along with sex to keep their partner happy”
Alle Aussagen über die Geschlechter sind falsch, wenn man sie absolut anwendet, im Schnitt würde ich schon vermuten, dass Frauen weniger Orgasmen haben (das aber nicht unbedingt als Gap empfinden), häufiger Sex ablehnen oder „in der Stimmung dafür sein müssen“ oder eher mal Sex haben, weil er Lust hat auch wenn sie es nicht unbedingt bräuchten.
Aus der etwas ausführlicheren Auflistung:
ho needs and wants sex?
- A third of people (32%) believe that men need sex more than women, whereas 54% believe men and women need sex about the same amount (1% believe women need sex more)
- 42% of people believe men want sex more than women do, whereas 45% believe men and women want sex about the same amount (2% believe women want sex more)
Who initiates, orgasms during and decides when sex is finished between heterosexual couples?
- People mostly think (45%) that heterosexual sex is slightly more likely to be initiated by the man closely followed by either partner (42%). Just 3% think it’s initiated by the woman
- More than half of people (53%) think that men are more likely to orgasm in sex, compared to around a third (35%) thinking both partners are likely to orgasm
- A similar proportion think either the man (36%) or both partners (38%) will decide when sex is finished, and 11% thinking it will be the woman
Who might refuse sex, or go along with sex ‘to keep their partner happy’ between heterosexual partners?
- The majority of people (56%) think that the woman is more likely to refuse sex; 25% believe that both partners are as likely to refuse; while only 1% of people think men are more likely to refuse sex
- The majority of people (57%) think women are more likely to ‘go along with sex to keep their partner happy’; whereas almost a quarter (23%) think that both partners are as likely to do this; and only 2% consider men more likely to do so
- More women (63%) than men (50%) think that women are more likely to go along with sex to keep their partners happy.
Is sex likely to be enjoyable? Are there generational differences?
- Almost three quarters (73%) of people believe both partners are as likely to enjoy themselves in heterosexual sex. But this figure reduces amongst 18-24 year olds to 58%.
Interessant sind dann insbesondere die geringen Zahlen in einigen Bereichen, etwa das nur 2% der Leute glauben, dass Frauen mehr Sex wollen
Dass es im Einzelfall genau andersrum sein kann ist auch klar. Aber die Tendenz ist doch sehr deutlich.
(Dr Fiona Vera Gray, Research Fellow at Durham Law School, expert on sexual harassment and pornography)
“This report shows how far we’ve got to go in changing outdated ideas about women as sexual gatekeepers. The belief that heterosexual sex is something women refuse or go along with rather than initiate, feeds damaging rape myths that hold women responsible for stopping rape, and blame women who show sexual agency.
“The finding that young people seem to hold some of the most regressive attitudes may speak volumes about how government delays to sex education have left a whole generation scrabbling to understand sex through the sexist representations we find in most pornography, where sex is something done to women by and for men.
“We need to get over our squeamishness and start talking about sex as something that is mutual, pleasurable, and fun.”
Alles Sexisten! Nur ich nicht.