January Jones und die Vorteile davon, ein Kind ohne Vater zu erziehen

In einem Interview mit „Red“ sagte die Schauspielerin January Jones einiges dazu, wie sie ihren Sohn ohne Vater erzieht:

Xander is still surrounded by strong women. “Maybe too much,” she smiles. Four of her closest girlfriends all had their children at the same time. She counts Rose Byrne and Amy Adams as inner circle, and follows Naomi Watts, Diane Kruger and Marion Cotillard on Instagram. She likes powerful women. “Maybe I should get a manny soon,” she says, a tad concerned. “But Xander has a lot of bro time with the neighbour dads and my dad, who is super young.”

Es ist also nicht, so, dass das Kind gar keine Männer um sich hat.

“It’s good to have strong women around a man,” she continues. “To teach him to respect women. He doesn’t have a male person in his life saying ‘don’t cry’ or ‘you throw like a girl’. All those shitty things dads accidentally do.” Her male friends “want to be around him because he’s such a fun kid”, but she’s candid about the fact that she doesn’t have a partner.

Ich finde es immer interessant, dass Leute meinen, dass nur Männer so etwas sagen und „starke Frauen“ die Geschlechterrollen nicht darstellen und verstärken können. Immerhin werden genug Frauen auch Sätze wie „du bist doch schon ein großer Junge“ sagen oder anderweitig deutlich machen, dass sie weinerliche Jungs nicht gut finden.

Imagining her, night after night, watching TV and going to bed alone makes me push her on the absent man question. Her eyes roll. “The moment I see someone who I think is cute, I google him and, oh, he’s 25, and I’m thinking, what is my problem?!” She’s laughing a lot now. “My sister, too. She lives in LA and we both like tattoos, guitar, kinda dirty…” I say, what’s wrong with younger rocker men, surely the sex would be great? And she says, “Is the sex great though? Do they know what they are doing? I guess you can teach them. I guess they are mouldable. But I want a manly man in flannel, with a beard and an axe. But then there’s always something wrong with him. Like he’s a Republican.”

Auch interessant: Sie will einen „manly man“, aber es sind die Männer, die ihrem Sohn beizubringen drohen, dass „nicht männliche Männer“ ein Problem sind. Es ist schade, dass ihr dieser Widerspruch so erst einmal gar nicht auffällt.