Männer mögen nette Frauen, Frauen finden nette Männer eher so naja

Eine interessante Studie behandelt noch einmal die Frage, wie „Nettigkeit“ und Attraktivität zusammenspielen:

Responsiveness may signal to a potential partner that one is concerned with her or his  welfare, and may therefore increase sexual interest in this person. Research shows, however, that this proposition holds true for men, but not for women. In three studies, one observational and two experimental, we explored a potential mechanism that explains why men and women diverge in their sexual reactions to a responsive opposite-sex stranger. Studies 1 and 2 showed that men, but not women, perceived a responsive stranger as more gender typical (masculine/feminine) and, in turn, as more attractive. Study 3 revealed that responsiveness increased men’s perception of partner’s femininity. This, in turn, was associated with higher sexual arousal, which was, in turn, linked to greater partner attractiveness and greater desire for a long-term relationship. These findings suggest that whether responsiveness affects perceptions of partner attractiveness varies in individuals, depending on the contextually based meaning of responsiveness.

Quelle: Why Do Men Prefer Nice Women? Gender Typicality Mediates the Effect of Responsiveness on Perceived Attractiveness in Initial Acquaintanceships

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Femininity and Attractiveness

Researchers from the Interdisciplinary Center (IDC) Herzliya, the University of Rochester, and the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, collaborated on three studies to observe people’s perceptions of responsiveness. People often say that they seek a partner that is „responsive to their needs,“ and that such a partner would arouse their sexual interest. A responsive person is one that is supportive of another’s needs and goals. „Sexual desire thrives on rising intimacy and being responsive is one of the best ways to instill this elusive sensation over time,“ lead researcher Gurit Birnbaum explains. „Our findings show that this does not necessarily hold true in an initial encounter, because a responsive potential partner may convey opposite meanings to different people.“

In the first study, the researchers examined whether responsiveness is perceived as feminine or masculine, and whether men or women perceived a responsive person of the opposite sex as sexually desirable. Men who perceived female partners as more responsive also perceived them as more feminine, and more attractive. However, the association between responsiveness and male partner’s masculinity was not significant for women. Women’s perceptions of partner responsiveness were marginally and negatively associated with perceptions of partner attractiveness.

Männer finden also Frauen, die auf sie reagieren, sexuell interessanter als solche, die das nicht machen. Bei Frauen war dies nicht der Fall, es ging sogar leicht ins negative


Sparking Sexual Desire

Participants in the second study were asked to interact with a responsive or non-responsive individual of the opposite sex, and view that individual’s photo (the same photo was given to each participant). They were then asked to interact online with this individual, and discuss details on a current problem in their life. The responsiveness of the virtual individual was manipulated, for example, „You must have gone through a very difficult time“ as a responsive reply, versus „Doesn’t sound so bad to me“ as a non-responsive reply.

Men who interacted with a responsive female individual perceived her as more feminine and as more sexually attractive than did men in the unresponsive condition. Women are more cautious than men when interpreting a stranger’s expressions of responsiveness, and their perceptions of the stranger, which were seemingly unaffected by perceived responsiveness, may reflect conflicting trends among different women. „Some women, for example, may interpret responsiveness negatively and feel uncomfortable about a new acquaintance who seems to want to be close. Such feelings may impair sexual attraction to this responsive stranger. Other women may perceive a responsive stranger as warm and caring and therefore as a desirable long-term partner,“ Dr. Birnbaum elaborates.

Also auch hier: Männer mögen Frauen, die reagieren, Frauen nicht unbedingt

The third and final study tested the possibility that responsiveness may activate motivational mechanisms for men that fuel pursuit of either short-term or long-term sexual relationship opportunities. A female partner’s actual responsiveness led men to perceive her as more feminine, and consequently to feel more sexually aroused. Heightened sexual arousal, in turn, was linked to both increased perception of partner attractiveness and greater desire for a long-term relationship with that partner.

Women’s Perceptions of Responsiveness

The findings of the study imply that whether a responsive partner will be seen as sexually desirable or not depends on the context and meaning assign to responsiveness. In early dating, the meaning of responsiveness is likely shaped by gender-specific expectations. Women did not perceive a responsive man as less masculine, but even so, women did not find a responsive man as more attractive. The study helps to explain why men find responsive women sexually attractive, but does not reveal the mechanism that underlies women’s desire for new acquaintanceships.

Und auch hier wieder das gleiche Bild. Die Forscher dazu:

„We still do not know why women are less sexually attracted to responsive strangers; it may not necessarily have to do with ‚being nice.‘ Women may perceive a responsive stranger as less desirable for different reasons,“ Prof. Birnbaum cautions. „Women may perceive this person as inappropriately nice and manipulative (i.e., trying to obtain sexual favors) or eager to please, perhaps even as desperate, and therefore less sexually appealing. Alternatively, women may perceive a responsive man as vulnerable and less dominant. Regardless of the reasons, perhaps men should slow down if their goal is to instill sexual desire.“

Meine Wertung ist etwas anders:

Dass Männer Frauen, die positiv auf sie reagireren sexy finden, ergibt sich bereits daraus, dass mit einer positiven Reaktion schlicht die Wahrscheinlichkeit steigt, dass sie einen gut findet. Da Eier teuer, Sperma aber billig ist, finden Männer sexuelle Gelegenheiten anziehend. Eine positive Rückmeldung durch Interaktion statt schweigen deutet eine solche an.

Dass Frauen da eine ambivalentere Reaktion haben. liegt sicherlich auch daran, dass ein positives Feedback bei ihnen weniger eindeutig ist, weil aufgrund des gleichen Mechanismus eben die Reaktion des Mannes der Frau weit weniger bringt. Sie kann darauf hindeuten, dass der Mann nur Sex will oder eben „Needy“ ist oder auch einfach, dass er sie tatsächlich gut findet.