Selbermach Samstag XXV

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Feministische Liebesromane und Dominanz

Ein Artikel bespricht feministische Liebesromane. Nach einigen Ausführungen zu Heldinnen, die aktiv die Story gestalten und Sex, bei dem die Frauen aufblühen und ihre Sexualität ausleben kommt eine interessante Stelle:

Grant echoes that romance novels have the ability to not only turn their readers on but, in fact, show their readers what exactly turns them on: „romance (being written by women as it is) is a way for women to explore what we’d like sex to look like, and to define sexual success or validation for ourselves.“

Still, there continue to be romance novels published where consent between the main characters is fuzzy. Robin Lynne, a scholar who writes on romance at the site Dear Author, argues that we should not see this as a failure of the genre but rather how it reflects the ambiguity of real life. „Women struggle with our sense of physical vulnerability, in some instances every day. So why would it be a surprise that a genre consumed by intimate relationships between men and women would not also be consumed by the issue of sexual force (and other types of emotional and physical coercion).“ This is complicated by the fact that a fair amount of women find sexually dominant men to be titillating. And almost any romance author you speak to about the genre will quickly tell you that what they write is not true life but a fantasy. The critical space between what one reads and likes and what one actually does is something that critics of the genre must remember, especially because their own policing of women’s desires is the product of the patriarchal system they are trying to criticize. MacLean argues that „we have to give ourselves permission as women to have fantasies. We aren’t saying that men should threaten sexual dominance or harassment or abuse. But it’s okay if we, at some point, find the idea of that threat hot.“ In a society that often wants to boil women’s sexual experiences into the polar opposites of purity or sluttiness, romance novels, even when we may as individuals judge their plots to be problematic, are the largest cultural space available for women to read about and imagine their own sexual fantasies.

Schon interessant in einem Artikel über feministische Romane etwas über die Vorliebe vieler Frauen für dominante Männer zu lesen. Passend dazu finde ich allerdings einen Kommentar unter dem Artikel:

Feminists who abhor any male boldness and those who „get hot“ to it need to decide which message they want to send men as they control the conversation. As always, we are used to mixed signals, but this one is unacceptable to relations between the sexes. Men want to fulfill fantasies yet have been specifically and routinely (from school through workplace) taught to avoid any association with sexual boldness.

Aus meiner Sicht wesentlich stimmiger innerhalb der feministischen Theorie: Wer meint, dass solche Dominanz bestimmte Rollenbilder stärkt und die Rape Cultur stützt, der kann eben auch nicht über solche Bücher das Signal senden, dass so etwas sexy ist.

Leider aber ist es nun einmal sexy für viele Frauen. Und insofern sieht man wahrscheinlich gerne über die eigentliche Unstimmigkeit mit feministischen Thesen hinweg