Frauen, die auf Gewaltverbrecher stehen (Hybristophilia)

Nach jedem Massenmord, insbesondere solchen mit „Botschaft“  liest man irgendwann die gleiche Schlagzeile: Der inhaftierte Massenmörder bekommt Liebesbriefe in die Zelle und Frauen bekunden, dass sie ihn anziehend finden.

Das Phänomen hat einen Namen: Hybristophilia:

Hybristophilia „is a paraphilia of the predatory type in which sexual arousal, facilitation, and attainment of orgasm are responsive to and contingent upon being with a partner known to have committed an outrage, or crime, such as rape, murder, or armed robbery.“ The term is derived from the Greek word „hybridzein,“ meaning „to commit an outrage against someone,“ and „philo,“ meaning „having a strong affinity preference for.“

In popular culture, this phenomenon is also known as „Bonnie and Clyde Syndrome“.

Many high-profile criminals, particularly those who have committed atrocious crimes, receive „fan mail“ in prison which is sometimes amorous or sexual, presumably as a result of this phenomenon. In some cases, admirers of these criminals have gone on to marry the object of their affections in prison.

Die Wikipedia hat auch einiges an Beispielen:

• The phenomenon of Charles Manson and Columbine High School shooters Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold groupies are also examples of hybristophilia.[3]
• One of the most infamous examples of hybristophilia is the large number of women attracted to Ted Bundy after his arrest.[4] Bundy allegedly received hundreds of love letters from women while he was incarcerated.
• Jeffrey Dahmer, a serial killer, is said to have had amorous women sending him letters, money, and other gifts during his time in prison.
• Serial killer Richard Ramirez married a female groupie in prison who had written him over 75 letters. During his trial, dozens of women flocked to the courtroom to catch a glimpse of him.
• Rapist Josef Fritzl, who detained his daughter in a dungeon for 24 years, received hundreds of love letters from women following his arrest

Wer einige der Briefe lesen will, der findet Auszüge bei Roissy in dem Artikel „Chicks Dig Jerks: A Series„

Auch die feministische Seite Jezebel hat etwas dazu geschrieben (via Genderama und Arne Hoffmann, der das Thema an mich weitergegeben hat):

Also known as „Bonnie and Clyde syndrome,“ it goes beyond the „bad boy“ appeal to which many women are drawn at some point in their lives. While hybristophilia is considered by some experts to be a potentially lethal form of sexual expression—as associating with known serial killers tends to be—Arthur Aron, a psychology professor at the State University of New York-Stonybrook says that for some, a relationship with someone imprisoned for life is actually safer, emotionally.

„For some people it’s threatening to be intimate,“ he says, „And a relationship with an incarcerated partner may give these people the sense of control they want or need when it comes to emotional closeness.“

Statistics show that male inmates are more likely to gain groupies and have romantic relationships with pen pals than female prisoners. This could be because men are 11 times more likely to be incarcerated than women, but whatever the case, those who commit the most violent, gruesome crimes—murder and rape—enjoy the most attention from „fans.“

Und das ist auch der Grund, warum nach meiner Meinung die Erklärung, dass Frauen nur die Sicherheit des Gefängnisses suchen, nicht wirklich überzeugend ist. Dazu wären auch weniger brutale Verbrechen geeignet. Es scheint mir eher ein Zusammenhang mit der verübten Gewalt zu bestehen.

Bei Heartist gibt es diesen Abschnitt in einem Beitrag zu Liebesbriefen an Breivik:

If “saving” or “healing” broken men was the prime motivation explaining women’s lust for assholes, then we would see women saving and healing all those unfortunate victims of a psychopath’s rampage. Not to mention, there are a lot more beatdown betas who are in need of saving via pussy therapy than there are happy-go-lucky alphas.

Which of course puts the lie to the feminist and mangina explanation for women’s attraction to jerks and thugs. While the savior complex may explain, in part, women’s craven desire, it is not the primary or sole explanation, or even a very important one. As everyday observation to those with the eyes to see demonstrates, the primary motivation is women’s love for unrepentant, rule-breaking assholes. That is the elemental, core female hindbrain algorithm that governs all other lustful dispositions and is the catalyst for her mate choice decisions.

Women love assholes because they are assholes. Because it inspires in women those emotions that most delight their pleasure centers. And that, based on the reaction it engenders from civilized men and women alike, is the truth too scary to contemplate.

Ich denke, dass viele brutale Männer eine gewisse Ausstrahlung auf gewisse Frauen haben.  Einzelgänger, verwegene Typen, dass alles hat einen gewissen sexuellen Aspekt, kann etwas sexuelles haben.

Zu Frauen stehen auf Arschlöcher verweise ich auf die folgenden Artikel:

• Mögen Frauen Arschlöcher?
• Mögen Frauen Arschlöcher? II
• Wissen Frauen auf was sie bei Männern stehen?
• Das “Nice Guy Stereotyp”: Sagen Frauen, dass sie liebe Jungs wollen, stehen aber eigentlich eher auf Machos?
• Attraktivität und Dominanz

Eine andere Auffassung fand sich dort in den Kommentaren mit Verweis auf ein Video:

I have a theory about killer groupies. Although the stereotype that “women are less violent than men” is thrown around without examination, I don’t think it’s entirely true. I think there’s an equal number of men and women per capita with latent sadistic/destructive urges; women just lack the testosterone-based aggression to act on them as often. These women will instead attach themselves to dangerous men in order to experience the vicarious frisson of eroticized violence. They get all the thrill and none of the consequences, like eager remora attached to the great white alpha sharks.

Women like this would have no interest at all in betas, and in fact would probably harbor a subconscious desire to kill them. The sad irony is that they actually create more serial killers. How much pussy do you think a bitter introvert like Breivik was getting before his crimes?

Listen to to the ecstatic tones of her voice as she rhapsodizes over her boyfriends’ evil crimes. Does anyone doubt that Sondra London wishes she could go on a killing spree herself?

Interessant wie sie die Sache mit Status verbindet und darstellt, den „besseren Serienmörder“ zu haben. Ich kann mir vorstellen, dass es Frauen anzieht, die gerade übertriebener Gewalt einen hohen Status zuweisen und den Gedanken verführend finden, dass sie eine Verbindung zu einem solchen Ungeheuer haben.

Vielleicht ist es ein gewisser Schutzmechanismus für einige Frauen gewesen, sich mit dem aggressivsten, brutalsten Mann einzulassen, gerade wenn er, wie in der Gefängnissituation, etwas gebändigt erscheint. Ein Freund, den alle gefährlich finden, möchte eben niemand provozieren, was evolutionäre Vorteile bringen kann.