Ein paar Darstellungen zu Männlichkeit:
Hugo Schwyzer zu falscher Männlichkeit:
There is nothing either guilty or shameful about living in a male body. There is nothing wrong with wanting sex with women, liking football, or enjoying beer. There is something wrong with deriving one’s self-worth from how many women one takes to bed, or how well one plays football, or how much beer one can drink. And there is something very wrong—something worth feeling guilt over—about promoting that narrow definition of masculinity to other men.
Natürlich sollte man kein zu starres Konzept davon haben, wie Männer sich zu verhalten haben. Viele Sachen sind eben nur Verteilungen im Schnitt. Bei Hugo Schwyzer scheint mir aber immer im Hintergrund zu stehen, dass man bestimmte Sachen, eben solche Tätigkeiten, gar nicht gut finden sollte, sondern eher ablehnen sollte. Dem würde ich zustimmen, was eine Verpflichtung zu einem solchen Handeln angeht. Dennoch kann man genau daran und eben auch am Wettbewerb (mehr Frauen, besseres Football und mehr Bier) Spass haben.
Der Dammend old man nimmt das Zitat von Schwyzer zum Anlass über Männlichkeit im Feminismus nachzudenken:
Feminists frequently use shame and guilt to make men feel bad about being men. Male sexuality is attacked and condemned with regularity. Masculinity and masculine values are frequently associated with patriarchal oppression of women. And any male who expresses himself sexually is automatically deemed a threat to every woman in existence. But being male, being or acting in a traditionally masculine manner, and/or wanting sex with a woman is nothing to be ashamed of or to feel guilty about. In fact, it should be celebrated and applauded. Men who were unafraid to be men are the men who built the world. This is nothing to be ashamed of or to feel guilty about.
Schwyzer is correct though, in stating that a man should not build his self-worth around his ability to act in a traditionally masculine fashion. Self-worth isn’t about how much beer a man can drink, or how many women he can bed, or how many countries he can conquer. All those things can be taken away and once gone, if a man has based his self-worth on them, he becomes worthless.
Und aus einem anderen Artikel noch ein kleiner Lobgesang auf das Männliche „The Magnificent Appeal of Masculinity„:
Aside from the obvious factors that are necessary for marital success, I believe men and women should derive pleasure from each other’s femininity and masculinity. Regardless of sexual orientation, if you can not revel in your partner’s distinct gender traits, I firmly believe you are with the wrong person.
It is an effortless joy to celebrate my husband’s masculinity. I love Rob’s physical manly prowess and the way he moves in his powerful six foot frame. I love his chest hair and facial hair, as well as his shaved balding head. His manhood can be seen in every pore. I love Rob’s deep baritone voice. His words shape my world; I continually receive a refreshing perspective on life and love.
My husband’s masculinity is incredibly sexy. I love how our bodies interlock with intense passion. I love feeling the weight and size of his body pressed against me as we snuggle in a warm cocoon. When I am enveloped by his physical and emotional nakedness, I feel exceptionally loved and protected.
Ich halte dieses Bild sich an der Andersartigkeit des anderen zu berauschen für eines, dass viele (heterosexuelle) Menschen anspricht. Dazu muss man natürlich Differenzen eingestehen und sie nicht zu einem Unding erklären